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On Purpose
What do you consider a natural yearning within you? I would jump out on a limb to say that your answer to that question would be the same answer that a great number of people on this planet would have. Let’s think about what drives people.
What changes their behavior to achieve a deep rooted goal? What are the things that people chase for a lifetime (sometimes)? What is it that you could get excited about
and see yourself doing for the rest of your life?
Is it to earn a ton of money? Is it to serve people in a very unique way? Is it to love your family as much as humanly possible - to take care of them like no one else can? What is the Natural Yearning of the Human Spirit?
All of the above probing questions can be answered by this one fact.
Take any group of people who have made seemingly automatic transformations in their lives and analyze the common factors. Among them would be a sense of purpose.
Purpose is a driving force that propels an individual to stay up late and get up early.
Purpose is the food that feeds the natural yearning of the human spirit.
Purpose is a deep thirst for an individual’s accomplishment. Not only for accomplishment but for meaning - a meaning that seems to pull, push, guide and lift one out of any situation or circumstance that is not consistent with the definition of
his or her goals and, more importantly, who he or she is not.
If you don’t have a purpose written out for your life, your are missing out on a very key tool for living success.
Writing down your life purpose is a great way to review why you’re doing what you’re doing and consistently stay focused.
Your Purpose should be written with positive potential poised and positioned as a predictable probability.
In other words:
1. Spend at least 20 minutes in a quiet place relaxed and focus on what your purpose is.
2. Write your purpose.
3. Don’t try and make it a perfect purpose/goal. None of us are perfect and there’s no sense setting yourself up for a fall.
4. Make it a concrete purpose.
5. Make your purpose attainable.
6. Take at least 1 step each day to fulfill your purpose.
Remember, this is your life’s purpose. This is what you’re about. There is no other person that can or will realize your purpose like you will.
Your purpose can and probably will change in some degree each year. Do an annual audit and see if your written purpose needs a revision. It may. That’s okay. It’s your purpose.
Make it worthwhile and make it yours.
Give it 100% every day.
Note: Review your purpose on a daily basis for the first 3 weeks after writing it. Beyond that, review it once a week.
Spend time writing your purpose. Focus in a quiet place for at least 20 minutes before writing anything. This is important.
Also, when writing your purpose, it can be as long or as short as you want it.
The main thing is to actually write it down. Enjoy your newly acquired purposeful life!
It is Never Too Late
How old are you? Are you too old? Do you think that your life is coming to an end? Do you think that it is too late to dream or change your life and succeed?
Do you lose yourself to time and sit waiting for your death moment? Wake up!
It is never too late to fulfill your dreams. It is never to late to unleash your potential. Think of the long time that has passed away and you will find a treasure of life lessons that can help you achieve massive success.
I admit that being old is different than being young. But the only difference that I can see is that you might need to move faster.
The rest of your life is shorter than what has passed. But you still have time to do what you love and leave a legacy.
Think of it. You have two choices. First, you can sit and regret the lost dreams. Second, you can go after your passion and dreams. What are you going to lose?
You still have a chance to end your life in a magnificent way. You still have the chance to draw a masterpiece that can be a source of inspiration for generations to come.
Never lose hope. As long as you are still alive, then you have a chance to succeed and live the life you were born to live.
Strive for success. Make new friends. Start a new business. Join a club. Involve in activities that feed your soul and charge your body.
Don’t end your life too early. There is more out there that can be done. Enjoy every moment of your life.
Always remember that:
“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” – George Eliot
LIVE to the last second!….just make it happen, you can do it.
Remember, Live Your Life By Choice, Not By Chance.
Is It Okay If I’m Happy?
“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” - Albert Schweitzer
How many of you out there can honestly say that you are happy? It all depends on how you define happiness. In the West, people could be said to be more materialistic – putting a high personal and emotional value on material wants. They keep acquiring more and more things, thinking that each new acquisition makes them happy. But there are still people who, despite their material riches, are not happy.
“Happiness” for some people might be a new car, or a new house, or a collection of CDs of their favorite artists. It could be more money in the bank or a personal yacht. But such “happiness” is fleeting and, once you get in the habit of acquiring things to make you happy, is an expensive habit to maintain. You fall into the trap of wanting more and more things to sustain the feeling of “happiness”. That kind of “happiness” is prevalent in our world today – which may explain why stores are full of things and gadgets that are supposed to make us content.
Think of the late billionaire Anna Nicole Smith, who died of a drug overdose. If she was really happy having billions of dollars to spend, why would she resort to using illegal drugs? Perhaps there was something missing in her life which she thought illegal drugs could supplant. Of what use are her billions of dollars to her now?
Perhaps Albert Schweitzer was right when he said: “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.”
A good example of someone who knew that service to others is the way to happiness is the late Mother Teresa of Calcutta. She found happiness by serving the outcast of Calcutta, India. And not only did she find happiness, she also made many friends in that country – including Indians who were not Catholics but Hindus who supported her mission.
So, if you wish to gain happiness for yourself, try serving other people who are in need of your help. Maybe there won’t be monetary gains, but the psychic rewards will overwhelm you.
Go ahead and try it and let me know.
Remember Live Your Life By Choice, Not By Chance.
How to Get Rid of Procrastination in 5 Simple Ways
Procrastination can be a problem for most people. I, myself, am such a master procrastinator that I can easily get awards for being so good at it. Procrastination is analogous to laziness. You set things aside, knowing that there’ll be lots of time to do them in the next hours, days, or even weeks. Personality-wise, procrastination is not positive! It’s a negative force that results in unutilized skills and dullness.
You might be thinking, then, what, really, are the causes of procrastination? Here is a list of typical reasons why I go on procrastinating.
• The right mood. Funny as it may seem, I always wait for the right mood where I feel so happy or active to do certain things. I can consider my mood as a factor to motivate me in accomplishing work.
• The right time. To go with mood is the right timing. There are times when I wake up and prepare to clean the pile of laundry in my basket. But, just as I am willing to wash clothes, the rain suddenly pours. Then it’s procrastination time again.
• Underestimating the time and difficulty of accomplishing a task. I may sound arrogant, but, oftentimes, I underestimate the difficulty of a job. I keep telling myself I can do it in just a short time (and eventually end up with half-baked work).
• Unclear tasks. I always procrastinate when I don’t know what to do and what goals to accomplish.
• Perfectionism. Up to now, I can’t decide if this is a positive or negative attitude. I delay finishing a task because I see to it that every detail, no matter how minute, is well-examined.
It’s ironic that I should be the one giving you tips on how to deal and get rid of procrastination, as I also am guilty of it. But, as they say, a good teacher is someone who had actually undergone the experience. Let me tell you this: all these tips can only be effective if you have a heart to follow them regularly!
1. Be organized. Starting today, organize your things, your room,your time, and your life. Set goals and clearly devise ways to accomplish them. An organized desk can be a good area for work. Finishing a rush report your boss told you to do can be easily and efficiently done if you have set your goals and mapped out methods on how to do it.
2. Set plans! Get your planner and write down all your plans, both for short-term and long-term. Ironing the clothes and cleaning the house can easily be accomplished when you know you have a time limit. As an initial step, plan for a whole day’s work and follow it religiously. It would be better to allot time to certain activities you need to accomplish. For example, an hour to iron clothes. After some time, you will be able to do a week-long plan and so on. Just be conscious not to be too adamant with your entire schedule and always leave ample time for certain emergencies and rest.
3. Time management. Observe your personal time management strategies. Start from the time you go to work to the time you sleep at night. Be sure that you sustain a time balance between your family life, work life, and other personal activities.
4. Control yourself and stay focused! When your brain is telling you to just sleep and neglect the paperwork that need to be accomplished, try to be in control and concentrate. Focusing on what you will and should do are great motivators for you to move constantly.
5. Just do it! Know how to discipline yourself. A simple act of cleaning a mess should be done in an instant. Just think that you’re doing it not only for your own sake but for all the members of the family.
If you always observe yourself as having low productivity, this is the time to take a grip and get rid of procrastination habits. You are in charge of all you do and these delaying tactics are simply not useful. Procrastination will not develop you personally; it’s just a way of prolonging your work further and widening the risk for a half baked finish. Set yourself free from procrastination and get moving NOW!
You Can Do It
Remember, Live Your Life By Choice, Not By Chance.
How to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Confidence
How often have you listened to that inner voice within you - a word of praise “aren’t you special!’, a positive reinforcement about yourself ‘go for it, you can do it!‘, or even an outright discouragement ‘you are just not worth it!’. This is your self-esteem speaking. Self-esteem is one’s appraisal of one’s worth. Self-esteem is an index of the amount of confidence and satisfaction you have in yourself. Self esteem is the collection of beliefs we have about ourselves.
This voice speaks in two ways - it can be positive and reassuring for some - for those who have a high self-esteem. At the same time, for those with a low self-esteem, this inner voice constantly criticizes, pulls them down, and negates their achievements.
The characteristics of a low self-esteem individual are all too evident, degrees, of course may vary - non-risk taker; looks for approvals externally; fears rejection; insecure, anxious, nervous with others; irrational beliefs.
Why is self-esteem so important? How we feel about ourselves affects how we act and react. A high self-esteem is as essential as oxygen, as uplifting as the fragrance of fresh roses, as warm as the golden sunshine - so very vital to a healthy life and state of mind. A low self-esteem can result in self-doubt, stress, anxiety, relationship problems, underachievement , spiraling down to a lack of interest in life itself
Self-esteem is derived from many factors - our goals in life, achievements, place in the world, how we relate to others, our successes/failures, how we perceive others seeing us, to name a few. Our self-esteem develops and evolves throughout our lifetime- beginning right from our childhood- and is constantly being influenced by our interactions with different people and activities.
A positive self-esteem reinforces your confidence. If you have confidence, you tend to respect yourself. This further translates into a respect for others, improved relationships, confidence in one’s achievements, willingness and drive to pursue happiness, success etc. Confidence in self-helps you cope with situations in a positive light, to accept failures with a shrug, gives you the courage to try again.
A positive self-esteem and confidence walk hand in hand both are essential towards having a healthy and fulfilling life. Therefore, it is very essential to focus on building a positive self-esteem for oneself, in order to avoid the feeling of being incapacitated in our daily lives. Find below a few tips on building a positive self-esteem, which is by no means an exhaustive list.
Give yourself positive feedback - don’t put yourself down
Do not dwell on your mistakes
Celebrate your strengths
Be yourself - in all situations
Set realistic goals for oneself
Expand your comfort zones - try new things
Like most things in life, this cannot be achieved overnight, but taking a small, confident step at a time. At every small measure of success, praise yourself, set a next achievable goal, things are looking up surely.
Remember, Live your life By Choice, Not By Chance.
Goal Setting For Beginners
Do you have goals? Well, most of us do. It might be a daily goal, a weekly goal, even a yearly goal, but we have goals. However, not everyone knows how to properly set goals. This article aims to educate the goal-setting novices out there on how to properly set goals.
Setting goals for yourself is like creating a road map to get to your destination. In goal-setting, your destination is succeeding in accomplishing your goals. This means you have to write down your goals on a piece of paper so you can start to get organized. This step allows you to concentrate on your goals rather than leave your ideas scattered throughout your mind.
The first question you have to ask yourself is: Is my goal something that I would really like for myself or is it just something that looks good to other people? This question is crucial because many people make the mistake of setting a goal just to please other people. A good example of this is a college student who chooses a course so that his parents will praise him. What he should actually do is to go where his heart leads him. This means that the goal should match the individual’s personal value system.
Second, a goal should correspond with the other goals you have set for yourself. Like the example we gave above, a college student must not take courses that deviate from the career path he is creating for himself. Not only is this a waste of money but it also opposes the purpose of goal setting – which is to keep his life organized. Deviating is dubbed non-integrated thinking.
Third, set goals for the 6 aspects of your life, which are: Mental and Educational, Physical and Health, Financial and Career, Social and Cultural, Spiritual and Ethical, and lastly, Family and Home. This guarantees that you will maintain a balanced life as you evaluate and amend the basics of your daily life. This step also lessens the level of non-integrated thinking.
Fourth, create goals that emphasize positive thinking rather than negative thoughts. We create a list of goals partly because we want to program our subconscious mind to follow our instructions. This part of our mind – the subconscious – was made solely to follow instructions. So if you want your subconscious to follow positive thinking, think of positive instructions to give it. (Positive thinking is also a useful tool for our development in daily life as a person.)
The next step is to define our goal in a detailed fashion. For the college student who is trying to choose a course, he could write down: “I want to study BA European Languages with a major in German and a minor in French” rather than just state “I want to pick a course in the College of Arts and Letters”. You will notice that the more detailed statement serves to provide the subconscious mind with detailed instructions to follow. Your final outcome becomes more and more definite as you provide more details in the instructions you write down. The subconscious mind works more efficiently if the final outcome is defined well.
In the sixth step, do not downgrade your goals – keep reaching high! That way, if you do not reach your goals, at least you reached a level that is higher than you imagined you could reach.
Lastly, you ought to list your goals on paper. Read your list often so you can focus on them one by one. If you concentrate on accomplishing your goals, it is probable that you will be able to get to where you want to be in life. As you review your goals, it is also possible that you may have to revise your list but that’s okay. Stay flexible if circumstances warrant it.
Remember Live Your Life By Choice, Not By Chance.
